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The Trans Woman Toilet Question


Sir John Harrington (1561-1612) was a poet and godson of Queen Elizabeth 1; most have never heard of him, but he invented a device to which we are all beholden and forever grateful, and brought a new meaning to the phrase “sitting on the throne”.

He invented the flushing toilet.

For many years, the toilet was a contraption only installed into households, but with the Industrial Revolution of the 19th century came the demand for public toilets. At first, they were built only for men, due to the requirement to be away from home in the course of their work. Women were generally house-bound, and there was no immediate perceived need for women’s public toilets.

But the onset of World War One focussed the Suffragettes on campaigning for women to work in factories to help the war effort and the provision of proper changing and sanitary facilities, hence the advent of women’s public toilets.

And the rest is history; women’s public loos have been established as part of our public health infrastructure ever since. Invariably they consist of a communal room with sinks and mirrors, and opposite are single cubicles containing the flushing toilet and secured with doors and locks. But the main door to the toilet block is never locked.

By coincidence, the first male-to-female sex-change operations took place in the same historical timeframe, starting in the 1920s in the Institute of Sexology in Berlin, established by Doctor Magnus Hirschfeld, a German sexologist, also known as the Einstein of Sex.

In this 100-year timeframe, people who have been born male, but now live as women, have used the toilets of the gender in which they present, and there is no statistical evidence of this being a threat to women, just a few anecdotal scare stories from newspapers more interested in profits and readership than the truth.

To be clear, the main door to the toilet block is never locked; anyone and everyone can just walk straight in and cause havoc, but the evidence of such is non-existent.

Yet in today’s toxic sex versus gender debate, the constant tropes of Gender Critters is we don’t want “trans-identified male penises in women’s toilets” (belonging to a group of similarly offensive and transphobic terms, including “Women are Adult Human Females” and “#SexnotGender”).

I think GC's need a lesson in the birds and the bees.

For a penis to be weaponised, it must be erect. A limp penis cannot be inserted into a vagina; it is a biologically impossible feat.

Take my word for it; it is not for want of trying!

Irrespective of being a penis-haver, for a male to be a sexual threat to a female, he must have both a sexual desire and a desire to threaten and harm.

The medical term for sexual desire is libido, and a main factor affecting the strength of male libido is the hormone testosterone. As a volunteer for a charity that gives emotional support to trans women who are undergoing transition, I can guarantee without fear of contradiction that the pursuit of the great majority of trans women is to rid their body of testosterone and to replace it with the feminising hormone, oestrogen. One of the side effects of oestrogen is a loss of libido and the inability to get an erection.

It's basically chemical castration.

Most trans women simply do not have the physical and/or psychological ability to sexually assault a woman.

What about those trans women who can still get it up?

Gender dysphoria is a debilitating feeling that can be experienced by trans women from an early age, as young as 4 or 5 years old. It is defined, amongst other things, by “a strong desire to be of the other gender” and, if not addressed, can lead to serious secondary mental health issues, like anxiety, depression and suicide. But whilst the desire is strong, the process of transition to the other gender usually takes years, sometimes decades, to achieve.

For trans women waiting for healthcare services to provide support, this period of transition can seem like a lifetime, and all the while, they are looking on with envy and desire at people who already belong to the gender category defined as “woman”. They see the social interactions of women, the communications, how they dress, talk and live, but even though they are surrounded by women, they cannot be accepted as one.

It is like seeing someone in an exclusive club, looking through the window of their gorgeous clubhouse, but non-members cannot go in; they are barred; they have to stand on the sidewalk, watching with envy.

The desire is unbearable.

Being surrounded by people who are living the dream that is out of my reach, is unbearable.

Believe me, it hurts.

As a trans woman who is not yet on oestrogen, and who can still “get it up”, the last thing on my mind is to hurt the members of this exclusive club that I want to join. I see all women as beautiful people, although some more beautiful than others. I want them to accept me as a member of their club and to be able to live and exist as they do, following the unwritten sociological rules of their club.

The last thing on the mind of any trans woman when using women’s toilets, is to hurt or threaten any of the occupants, whether the trans woman has been chemically castrated with oestrogen, or not.

They most sincerely do not want to offend members of the club they are so desperate to join; it would be the most senseless and counter-productive thing they could do. They want to alleviate the pain of gender dysphoria, and in no circumstances are they going to inflict pain on the very people who can best assist their quest.

Despite reading this article and the clear logic of its arguments, GC's will still claim that trans women are a threat in women’s toilets, because they have an alternative transphobic agenda, categorised by terms that are legally defined (Maya Forstater V CGD Europe (2021)) as “profoundly offensive and even distressing to many others”.

If you want to understand how offensive GC terms are to trans women, it may be an idea to translate them into other protected characteristics of the Equality Act, race and disability, by substituting with racist or ableist language:

“Woman = Adult Human Female” equates to “Person = White, Privileged, Able”.

“SexnotGender”, equates to “WhitenotBlack”.

“Trans-identified male” equates to “black-skinned person”.

GCs will use these nasty terms against trans women, because inherently, GCs are trans-exclusionary, hence nasty people.

In the highly unlikely event that a trans woman does attempt to sexually assault a Gender Critter in a woman’s toilet, the only physical experience she will endure, is described by a new medical ailment defined by psychologists and criminologists alike: FloppyDickOnTopaMe.


Authored by Julie Miller @julie_trans

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